Relationship Maintenance
All relationships require maintenance. It is to help you to get a satisfied relationship. Of course, different relationships require different types of maintenance. Maybe some will require more time and attention than others. When we have some trouble in our relationship, we need maintenance and consistent effort in order to repair it. But if things are moving along generally smoothly in your relationship, we might like to keep it that way. How we maintenance our relationship? (Sanique said 'give and take' and maybe don't be too tough). But what are the reasons for maintaining relationship??...


Attraction Theory
Attraction between people leads to friendships and romantic relationships. Relationship might be maintained or developing When there are some significant attraction from the opposite side. (Attraction doesn't means physical alone.)

Social Exchange Theory
This theory means that the relationship are formed by the use of a subjective cost-benefit analysis and the comparison of alternatives. For example, when a person perceives that the cost or reward of the relationship is lower than what he/she expected, he might choose to leave the relationship. But if the benefits that he get is as much as or more than what he wants, then the relationship will be maintain well. There is another example, a guy pick you up to college or works everyday, hope that will get into a closer relationship. Once he knows that there is no hope,he will immediately stop treating you like how he treated you before.

Emotional Attachment
It is like you and your partner build or maintain ur relationship because you 2 love each other.


Convenience
A kind of relationship that not really including love. It is more like a couple that live together for the sake of convenient to each other in future life. For example, business partner.

Children

Some couples choose to maintain their relationship rather than break up because of their children. They feel that it is the responsibility to the relationship and to protect their children.




Fear
some people find theirselves hard to accept the life of being alone or single. To avoid that, they choose to maintain their relationship so that they feel more secure.







Commitment
The most common reason of relationship maintenance is commitment.A fact(events ,action) demonstrated by behavior, and an attitude consisting of thoughts and beliefs. It is also a formal event of some kind between two people.couples made commitment to preserve their relationship.
For example,Jewel said tht comitments in her relationship is to be honest to each other.
Evonne said that she wont be hang out too much with her 'gang' that she use to hang out with.
For Long Jye,he is willing to sacrifice anything to make his partner satisfied.And with that,he'll feel happy.


Rules for Maintaining Relationship... ...

Friendship-

• Be Yourself, 'who you are' is always changing, especially when you become part of your group of friends .Present yourself honestly and genuinely
  to the people you hang around
  with.
• Avoid Gossip Friends don't spread rumors about other friends -- even
  within their group. (If you are

not sure how to talk to them about it, seek the advice of one other trusted friend, but don't let the discussion turn into a free-for-all about everything you don't like the person. (You certainly wouldn't be happy if someone did that to you)

• Defend Your Friends At some point, somebody you're not tight with is going to question the integrity of one of your friends.Whenever you can, be respectful of the other person's question or criticism but emphasize that your friend is a good person who deserves the respect of others, even when they make mistakes.
• protects your Friends When a friend of yours is making not-so-great decisions -- whether it's about drugs, alcohol, studying or dating,
  give advice in a caring way that shows you value
  your friend and respect their feelings, they're much
  more likely to pay attention.
• Be honest
  Always be honest, but never critical.
  
• Be Appreciate
  Always focus on what you appreciate about them, not on what you dislike.
  
• Acceptance
  Do not try to change your friends. Accept them as they are.
  
• Keep contacts
  Maintain your
  friendships with
  periodic quality
  communication by
  email, phone, and in-person.
  
• Sharing
  Strengthen your friendships by sharing fun, challenging, and intellectual experiences.
  
• Express
  If you love a friend, have the courage to tell them. (This applies to both men and women.)

Romantic- You might already be following a rule of romance without you being aware of it. You simply cannot understand it.The point is you need to balance everything (love, romance)to achieve it.

1. Don't expect romance to just happen, you have to create it.

2. Don;t expect that your partner create all romance.You have to give it as well