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In male-female dating relationships, the first to say “I love you” were the males. One reason
was that males had “low expression control.” They feel what they think is love and do not hold
back. So, they say“I love you” . Females, it was said, have higher control over this expression--restraint, you might say..( this makes females more better in the sense that when they profess that she loves you, she really meant it ) ..Please don't kill me guys, I know some..SOME..of you really mean it when you tell your girl that you love her, so don't get mad..cuz this is just a finding, either you take it like a man or swallow it hard down the thoart..LOL..Yup so this led us to some of sociologist John Lee’s Love Styles:

John Lee conducted extensive interviews with people to discover what the word "love" meant to them. He learned, of course, that love means different things to different people. Lee concluded that humans think of love in six separate ways. He labeled these love forms with Greek nouns.
Eros Love:
Eros refers to the romantic love that has tremendous passion, physical longing, deep intensity, and intimacy. For erotic lover, they are the people who are more likely to confess or to claim that they are falling in love with just at first sight, compared to others. Marriage is the extended honeymoon, mean while sex is the ultimate aesthetic experience. however, others may perceive the erotic lover as, unrealistic, or trapped in fantasy. further more, the disadvantage of erotic lover is the inevitableness of the decay in attraction, and the danger of living in a fantasy world. In its extreme, eros can resemble naivete.

Ludas Love:
Ludas is called game-playing love. It is like the love of a knight for a princess. There are playful interactions here but little intimacy or deep intensity. ludic lovers focused more on quantity isntead quality of relationships, they expect to have as much fun as possible from relationships. ludic lovers generally view marriage as a trap(cool @@), and are the most likely of the love styles to commit infidelity. they might view children as a sign of fertility, or, if male, a confirmation of their masculinity. they regard sex as a conquest or a sport, and they engage in relationships because they see them as a challenge(wahahaha XD). skillful in sexual techniques could be the advantage of ludic lovers, but somehow, they could be seen as infedily to relationship in contrast.

Storge Love:
Storge exemplifies friendship-based love. There is strong companionship and shared values here but little physical intimacy. friends always come first, and friendship still can be endure beyond the breakup of the relationship. storgic lovers usually seek for their partners based on homogamy, which means similar social status, culture background, religion, gender, ethnics and etc.further more, they place much importance on commitment, and find their motivation to avoid committing infidelity, it is to preserve the trust between the partners. children and marriage are seen as legitimate form of their bond, whereby sex is least importance for them.

Pragma Love:
Pragma, a combination of storge and ludus love, refers to practical or logical love in which someone actively searches for a partner with certain characteristics. pragmatic lovers are rational and realistic on their expectations on a partner, and select them through listing. pragmatic lovers will avoid infidelity to avoid adverse consequences, and carefully weigh the costs and rewards of a relationship. pragmatic lovers view sex as a reward or a means of procreation, and view marriage and children as potential liabilities and assets. somehow, some people may view pragmatic lovers as undemonstrativeness and lack of emotion.

Mania Love:
Mania is a combination of eros and ludus love. It is also known as the troubled love. This love has jealousy and dependence (often called co-dependency), great intensity, some intimacy, and many psychological symptoms related to the relationship. manic lover often have a low self-esteem, whereby they feel that love is a means of rescue, or a reinforcement, they often feel that they need their partners. manic lovers will avoid committing infidelity as they fear of discovery. they view marriage as ownership, and children as either competition or a substitute for their lover. sex is a reassurance of love for them (= =). manic lovers are always anxious or insecure, as resulted they have a strong possesion on their partners.

Agape Love:
This is the love of altruism, of giving without asking anything in return, and of sacrificing oneself for one's partner. agapic lovers are usually spiritual and religious people ( as claudia does = =), they view their partners as blessings,and wish to take good care of them. agapic lovers will remain faithful to their partners to avoid causing them pain, and will often wait patiently for their partners for respond during conflicts. they believe that marriage and children are sacred trusts, and sex is a gift between two people. some people consider the Agape love as the purest form of love.


Researchers discovered that men tend to view love more in terms of the romantic, intense eros love, or the game-playing love of ludas.
Female restraint may be linked to their greater pragmatism (pragma) and the common claim that women are LIFO (“last in love, first out”), whereas men are said to be FILO (“first in love, last out”). its kinda fun getting to know all these simple facts that can help us be in a better position into being which kind of partner you want to be..watch and learn mate..*winkz*