Conflict In Relationships

There are a lot of conflicts happening in all types of relationships such as couple, family, peers, and many more. Conflict happens to anyone no matter how old are you. Conflict happen to fulfill demands and sometimes just because there is no equality between genders. For example, Miss Cheryl said that she cannot ride bicycle to go out of her neighbourhood area while her brother can, just because he is a guy and miss cheryl is a girl[hahaha].

Conflict happens for both good and bad reasons. Conflict is needed to strengthen one's relationship but conflict can also cause one relationship to break. When we face conflict, we tend to learn how to solve it, in other words, we gain experience to be ready for future conflicts. After conflict happens, both party will reflect and reanalyse whether they are doing the right thing. For example, mummy scolded her son for something bad he did. The son denied it and had a quarrel with his mum. After the quarrel, the son will reanalyse whether what he did was right. His mum on the other hand, will reanalyse whether she use the correct method to tell her son or will not even think about it. Conflict also help couples to reflect back whether they should be in the relationship or not.

The negative side of conflict is it always hurts. It will strain the relationship if both party do not want to give in.

Conflict Styles
Win-Lose[competition]
Only one person gets satisfaction from the conflict while other could turn up into upset. In this case, people compete for their own advantage and work toward their convinction. this style of conflict happens on majority of people, especially on a beneficial incident. Politicians are the best example of describing this style of conflict, they stand still on their convinction and competing strongly on it. it also happens in relationship, which one of the side is dominating the relation.

Lose-Win[accommodation]
When two party are in a conflict, usually one party will give in/accommodate and let another party win. For girlfriend boyfriend relationship, usually the boy will let the girl win [although the girl is the one wrong]so that the relationship will not be strained. This is bad for one's relationship as the conflict is resolved the wrong way although there is tolerance shown in one party.

Lose-Lose[Avoidance]
When both the party lose, its like there are no more benefits in arguing in the conflict. One party may use the word "whatever"[gals meaning of f u] to end the conversation. Avoidance is good and bad at the same time.

Compromise
One party will sacrifice something for another party's benefit. Both party may both compromise too for the benefits of both. Example, give by Teik Houng, if he needed to go overseas to work where his mum is alone at home, he would bring his mum to overseas too. Th worried that her mum to be alone while he needed to go to work. His mum on the other hand, would miss her hometown but would follow Th to overseas to reduce his worries.

Win-Win[collaboration]
For both party to reach win-win, tolerance are needed for both side. They would try to reach an agreement where both will like. in such a case, both parties also try to avoid taking benefits from each other while they aim for an equality.