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Self concept

[12.02.09]
We are thought in class about Self-concept, Self-awareness and Self-esteem.
Besides Shakirin's explanation of self-concept,i would like to explain it in more simple ways. Self-concept means how we think and evaluate ourself. For the self-esteem, it means a person's overall evalution of his or her own worth.It it also something like your good or bad opinion about yourself. Self-awareness means concept the one exists as an individual, seperate from other people,with private thought.It is also a self conscious state in which attention focuses on oneself. This makes people more sensitive to their own attitude and dispositions.

During the class, Ms Cheryl asked us 1 question "Who are you?".And....everyone start to give different kind of answers.i have to admit that some of those answers are really creative and funny.^^example like 'i'm a human beings', 'i am who i am' and so on.But still, she couldn't get the answer that she want. And finally some of us start to ask her back the same question.
Through her explanation and answer, we only know that we have to describe ourself to others to let them know that who you really are.
And this is how she answered.She said that she is actually a very serious person especially in life issues. (study,relationship...) Besides,she also seems playful among friends n she also know that many people might think that she is very open minded(so do i).But suprisingly,she is a secretive person.
The way she answered really makes us understand her more and who she really is..^^

-3li-

selF-Disclosure~

[13.02.09]
In today lesson, the main thing that has been taught by our dear lecturer was, the self disclosure.
Self-disclosure, is defined as the intention of revealing informations to others, and somehow, every person practices the different level of disclosures. But instead saying self-disclosure as providing information to another one in one-way, i would define self-disclosure as the sharing information which carrying risks and vulnerabilities on the person part.

So, why we disclose our information to others?
Self-disclosure performs several functions actually, it is a way of gaining information about another person.
We want to be able to predict the thoughts and actions of people we knew, whereby self-disclosure is one of the way to learn about how another person thinks and feels.
once one person engages in self-disclosure, it is implied that the other person will also disclose personal information. This is known as the norm of reciprocity, it do helps to enhance trust in a relationship as well as improves the understanding between each and another.
you also come to feel better about yourself and your relationship when the other person accepts what you tell them.

But, what if the person u disclosed to, acted in the way you unexpect?
there are risks for self-disclosure inspite it's functions in relationship. one of the risks could be, the person you disclosed to would not respond in a favourable impression towards the informations. however, self-disclose does not eventually resulted in good and positive impression.

another risks could be, person who receive information would gain power as he/she posses it. too much self-disclosure or self-disclosure that comes too early in a relationship can damage the relationship. T.T
so make sure we are rational before making self-disclosure.



Beside, it was a very interesting lesson for today class, Miss Cheryl prepared 3sets of self-disclosure test for us, which are related to self-disclosure to our classmate, our relationship partner, and so on.
After all the test taken, i found that i am a person which actually do not like to disclose about myself much(sanique here) @@

with contrast with my characteristics, i realised that i'm actually not so willing to share my secrets with friends, even close friends and family. although i sometimes i behave like a reporter when i was home, tell my dear mother about everything happened on that day, but still and always, i keep something in heart which i never tell.
even with friends, only a person who initially disclose himself to me, only then i willing to share the similar informations of mine with him.


Communication Apprehension is another lesson we have learnt on the day. It is generally defined as "an individual level of fear or anxiety associated with either real or anticipated communication with another person or persons" (McCroskey, 1977).
But in fact, communication apprehension is different with the so called first stage fright frequently found during stages speech or presentations, it is actually further more than the fright where it could be involving oral communication of ones, social-skills, and self-esteem.

it is believed that communication apprehension would be the major affect of the failure of self-disclosure. but what causes the communication apprehension? @_@

Professional suggested it is due to the general personality traits(traits apprehension) such as quietness, shyness, and reticence frequently precipitate communication apprehension. According to Friedman (1980), when the ability and desire to participate in discussion are present, but the process of verbalizing is inhibited, shyness or reticence is occurring. The degree of shyness, or range of situations that it affects, varies greatly from individual to individual.
another pattern of communication apprehension is the state apprehension which claims that having fear to communication in specific situation only.

-san-

And let me ask a simple question.. who know us better than our friends??
as for self concept, i don't think anyone can 100% describe themselves, cause being someone, we tend to look at the positive side of ourselves..

so we decided to make a video of all out members making comment about each other and see we describe ourselves ^^

started off with yike, claudia shakirin and winnie

and then goes on with may kwoon and KC

We continue on with San and here goes the total discussion

and the total discussion from everyone

Even from this forum itself,
some may have noticed that some of us here are loud,
some are quiet
some are observant
some introvert
some extrovert and so on
these can be observed not only thru listening to what the members said
but also thru how the members communicate...

still dun get what i mean??
go thru the whole and listen properly and then answer these questions

1. Who are dominant? Name 2 people.
2. Who are observant? Name 2 people
3. Who are loud? Name 2 people
4. Who is an extrovert? Name 1 person
5. Who is an introvert. Name 1 person

-kwoonzz-